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When you go job searching your resume is the top tool you use to land a job. And just like a resume portrays your attractiveness to potential employers, your online dating profile displays your attractiveness to potential suitors.
The profile is there to characterize your personality, experiences, desires, and expectations in the context of a seeker of companionship and love. Sure, pictures are the primary gatekeeper but once that’s triggered your profile is the deal clincher.
And good profile can even outweigh a picture that’s not up to Hollywood paparazzi snuff. The unvarnished truth is you can’t control how you look nearly as much as you control how you present yourself and how you come across to others.
So here goes:
1.- Don’t forget that you’re writing for both an audience and to one person.
Your profile should have some elements of mass appeal to attract readers. This can often be accomplished with a good headline which consists of intrigue, curiosity meshed with specifics.
If you’re stuck with writers block and imagination constipation, a good way to get started is to look at other profiles for inspiration. Pay attention to the styles that appeal to you. Are they funny, or revealing, or persuasive? By the same token, you’ll find those you don’t like, since they probably sound obnoxious or desperate or depressing. As you do so, think about the kind of person you would most likely respond to.
And always be yourself so you won’t regret it later as you twist and turn trying to fit an artificial persona.
Additionally, try not write your profile so it’s either too short or too long. This means that, like a woman’s skirt, it should be just “long enough”. Say what you have to say and say no more – don’t ramble on and manufacture words. Brainstorm things and then whittle it down to the essentials.
2.- Be detailed but concise. Avoid adjectives and specify with proper nouns and action verbs.
A good rule of thumb is to write like you talk. Pretend you’re having a conversation but cut out the “uhmms” and “ahhhs”. Always bear in mind that you’ll come across better if you’re not writing in a formal manner like one does on a job resume or professional correspondence.
And be specific in your writing. A good idea is to let the adjoining multiple-choice sections take care of all the adjectives describing you. That’s the place to mark down how you’re smart, funny, interesting, exciting and other subjective eye-in-the-beholder descriptive words.
It’s good to set scenes and be specific when talking about your experiences. Use nouns of places you’ve been or about interest you have – tell a tale about a bistro in Paris, not a trip to Europe. Talk about your water polo fame, not that you’re good at sports.
Use action verbs, too. You didn’t just visit, you “traveled” to exotic Bali to “explore” and “luxuriate and bask”. Then set a scene – in its “sun-drenched, soft sands” with a local drink that “lifted you” into a “state of unwary bliss”. Expressive writing will gain you a lot more readership and thus more interest and more results.
And never resort to a plain series of words like in a list – it can come across as lazy and isn’t at all descriptive.
3- Always remain fun and cheerful.
Don’t ever be a downer as it will surely doom your chances. This is especially important if your present situation or mood inhibits you form writing a friendly profile. The fact of the matter is, our current circumstances affect how we come across to others. If you just experienced a nasty break up or a similarly negative event, it will effect your attitude and your writing and thus poison the content of your profile.
Also, refrain form pouring your heart and soul into your profile. Honesty is good but diarrhea of the mouth and baring of your emotional center is not. In other words, save your problems and your issues for your shrink. Your profile should not serve as therapy. If this seems the case, you may need to wait a little while as you may not be ready yet to successfully create new friends and relationships.
Never resort to clichéd cop-out phrases like “my friends put me up to this”, I’m just here looking, or “I’m not sure what to think about this”. They’re generically over-used and make you look the same.
A great idea is to have a friend read your profile before you post it. You’ve been very close to it as the writer, so let someone a bit more detached and objective have a look a it.
4- Don’t be a show boat or act arrogantly.
There’s a difference between being confident and being cocky. Raising yourself by putting others down serves the opposite effect. It makes you appear to have low –esteem issues. The solution is to just not go there at all. Mind your own business and tend to your own positive character traits.
And if you come off as arrogant and snobby, that’s the kind of person you’ll have writing back in response – someone superficial and with questionable motives. Do you want a trophy wife or a sugar daddy or do you want to meet someone who shares similar interests and has an engaging personality.
5- Always be honest and truthful.
This is the biggest complaint among online companionship seekers. Woman are besieged by married men who don’t tell the “full” story until after they meet or they convince themselves since they’re a 5’-10” in flats, they can boast a more studly 6’-0”. Or when guys meet up with women who “have a few extra pounds” but the words fat and over-weight lend themselves to more accuracy or they’re picture was form 10 years ago and they “kind of” resemble it today.
Just know this – a liar now, a liar later. The best policy, since there are no character witnesses and you can’t police unethical practices, is to do your best to avoid them. One tactic that helps there is to not have a scarcity mentality online. Be deliberative, don’t jump at every Dick and Jane that you see or comes your way.
The only exception might be to fudge your age in the choice section to avoid being filtered out by a round number like 40 or 50. Of course, you must tell your truthful age in your profile and it shouldn’t stray to far from the limit.
6-Always proofread your work and TEST IT.
Simply knowing the difference between their and there can go a long way towards meeting Mr. or Mrs. Write….Right? Correct.
By testing, it’s meant that if you’re not getting a response, then try another approach. Change your headline, or relate some more experiences or interests. Look for implicitly negative vibes you may have overlooked. Insert some more paragraph breaks. Experiment. It’s only your love life, after all.
There you have six core principles and a handful of tips and tricks to write a better profile. Now, go hunt’em down all you online Casanovas.
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Is there ever such a thing as “No Strings Attached?” Can a friendship between two people withstand casual sex? Or is that just an idealistic concept?
One night stands aren’t as in as they used to be. Now lovers are coupling up for more long term sex. It’s called “Friends with Benefits”. They get all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. They start out as friends. They enjoy each other’s company and then one night start sleeping together.
They don’t date. It’s not a traditional “significant other” type relationship. In many cases, the other friends don’t even know about their sex on the side. It’s set up as a mutual gratification, friends helping friends arrangement.
What most Friends with Benefits fail to do is set up the rules. It generally starts out as either happenstance or perhaps a small dialog exchange, “I don’t have anyone, you don’t either, so let’s do it, no strings attached. What do you think?” It all sounds well in good; at least initially when both are hornier than a unicorn. But can friends who sleep together remain friends once it ends? Or is the start of mutual sex the start of the end of their friendship?
Sex creates a bond, no matter how discussed up front it is. Someone always gets hurt in the end of a no strings attached, Friends with Benefits arrangement. Booty Calls always start out with mutual orgasms as the sole purpose. Yet when two people share that kind of closeness, and if it's a recurring buddy booty call, then they spend time together. Someone is doing something very intimate with and to the other. Who isn’t always appreciative of a good orgasm?
One or both may know that they don't want a commitment and that's why the No Strings Attached agreement was conceived. But when the “ooh baby, ya that feels so good, I love what you do to me” occurs regularly, how can they NOT start to feel something for the other? One person will inevitably feel a stronger emotional bond than the other; it's not male/female bias. One will still only love the physical benefits and the other will enjoy the great sex so much that they get attached, even though they weren't looking for any relationship.
Or perhaps one person may have always been secretly attracted to the friend and knew the other didn't want a relationship, yet figured a Friends with Benefits arrangement was better than nothing. Hence they verbally agreed to the arrangement but emotionally they were already hooked.
Develop some rules before entering into any such arrangement. Consider these suggestions: No going out with each other unless it’s in a group situation or you know the night will end in sex, therefore the outing is part of foreplay, no public affection, no gifts and any other boundaries you want to instill. Before it starts, decide how it will end. If starting out as friends, the goal is to end as friends. If new love interests were previously discussed among friends, shouldn’t those types of conversations still be allowed?
Use your head to consider wisely what may be lost if you enter into a Friends with Benefits arrangement.
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The Way You Handle Calls, Emails, and Text Messages Will Seriously Affect How Much Your Man Wants You!
"Hello..."
Have you ever hesitated before you dialed his number?
Have you ever made a phone call to a man and later regretted it?
We've all been there!
I'm Mimi Tanner, the author of Secrets of Flirting with Men and Man Mistake Eraser. I write a daily email advice column (see below) read by thousands of women all over the world. Most of the books I write are specifically written for women, because I have spent a lifetime studying and thinking about what makes a man attracted to a woman - and what makes a man stay with a woman.
What happens when you call - or don't call - the man in your life can truly make or break your relationship.
Calling Men is not an etiquette book or a business manual - this is a book to get to the truth of how to handle this oh-so-important part of your relationship with your man.
Fair Warning!
Some women are going to get just plain mad at me for daring to suggest that you should put some thought into how you handle phone calls with your man. They will loudly insist (and send me rude emails) that I should not have written this book because it shouldn't matter what happens on the phone. They want to be able to say and do anything that comes into their heads, and call their man ten times a day if they feel like it.
Tra-la-la, and yes, no one should ever get a flat tire, we should stay young forever, and the government should not tax us either - but that is not how life works in the real world!!
Many of these women will eventually, after a series of failed encounters and relationships with men, come unhappily to the realization that yes, it DOES matter, and these issues can make or break your relationship!
In Calling Men, I will show you the "whys" of everything I tell you to do, so you will understand why these methods and tips work. You'll understand the effect you have on a man when you don't call at the wrong time, and how your relationship is strengthened when he calls you. When you understand what happens in your man's mind, you'll instinctively pick up on these ways to act and react. These methods will become second nature to you very quickly - especially when you see how well they work!
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If you are looking for a collection of expensive dates to really impress your sweetheart then this ISN'T IT. But if you want 100's of inexpensive dates that cost from $5-$20 then you have found a goldmine of information. Whether you want to make a big impression to secure a second date, put your relationship back on track or just have more fun, keep reading, as this may be the most important letter you ever read…
Dear Friend,
Did you know that while going out for dinner and a movie is one of the most popular dates, it is also one of the very worst dates you can go on? -- especially for couples in the early stages of dating!
Don't believe me?
Imagine this. You're sitting at a restaurant with a beautiful woman and everything seems to be going fine. But after ordering your meals, you realize you can't think of anything interesting to talk about. You try to think of something… anything!…
At that moment, your palms sweat, your heart thumps, and your mind begins to race at 100 miles an hour, as you notice her looking around the room disinterested.
You're losing her.
And after two hours filled with awkward silence and generic questions, you take her home…
…only to be struck with the cold sinking feeling that you blew your chances forever.
Still think dinner is a good idea?
Don't get me wrong, dinner can be great but it's just too hard to make a good impression over dinner.
And if you're always going on dinner dates with a long-term partner, it's likely that things are getting a little stale and you're dying to try something new.
Dinner dates are a bad idea! It's just too hard to make a good impression.
Either way, you want to keep having lots of fun with a special someone and you know that going on original dates is perhaps the very best tool to accomplish that.
But Finding Unique and Creative Date Ideas Is The Hard Part!
Let's face it, trying to come up with cool unique date ideas is tough!
Honestly, it could take you hours searching only to come up with average ideas like: "spend the day at the beach or cook dinner at home." These ideas are 'okay' but there are much better ideas.
And that's where I come in.
You see, after realizing that people are starving for new and refreshing ways to spend time together, I decided to sit down, recall and write down all the fun-filled dates I've had with my wife Athena over the years. The result is a quality collection of date ideas from friends, family and myself.
But Why Should You Listen To Me and My Dating Ideas?
My name is Michael Webb.
And for the last 12 years I've been teaching people how to have fulfilling and successful relationships that last a lifetime through the power of romance.
In fact, because of some of my dating and romance ideas, media around the world have taken to calling me "The World's Most Romantic Man," "America's Romance Expert," "Mr. Romance," "The Martha Stewart of Romance" and other interesting monikers.
I don't necessarily agree with the titles, but I do aim to be the world's most loving husband to my wife of 17 years, Athena.
Not to mention I have been featured in media countless times.
Including every major newspaper in the United States, dozens of magazines and over 500 radio and TV shows such as Oprah, The 700 Club and Men Are From Mars / Women Are From Venus, sharing my tips and secrets with millions of viewers worldwide.
In addition, I am also a bestselling author of 11 books on love, romance and relationships.
My first book, "The Romantic's Guide" is a national bestseller. It was released in February 2000 and is already in its sixth printing.
All in all, I am regarded in the media as one of the nation's top experts on love, dating and relationship matters. So YOU KNOW you're in good hands with my date ideas.
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The Lazy Man's Way To Easy Sex And Romance With 20 Or More Women A Month.
Dear Friend,
Alone on a Saturday night, watching Friends re-runs and fantasizing about Jennifer Aniston. For years, that's what I called my love-life.
I was 22 years old. So broke I didn't have two pennies to rub together. So embarrassed about by my body that I wouldn't take my shirt off unless I was alone. And after four years at a major party college... I was still a virgin.
Sure, I dated a few women (other guy's sloppy seconds), but even they never returned my phone calls.
And anytime I'd make a few female friends, it always ended up the same: I'd follow them around like a dog, jumping at the chance to do them a favor or listen to their problems... hoping somehow it would lead to sex, but…
Behind My Back They Just Giggled
And Called Me Their Emotional Tampon.
About the only thing I had going for me was my brain. You see, I'd always been fascinated by psychology and 'silent mind control' techniques... you know the 'hypnotic' stuff big advertisers use to make you happily open your wallet (and earn billions doing, by the way).
My thinking was, if they can use this stuff to figure out what people want to buy, why can't the same techniques be used to reveal...
What Makes Women
Go After Certain Men?
I figured it was probably a waste of my time, but I kept on with my research anyway... for 4 years. And what I uncovered changed my love-life in a big, big way.
You see, I went from this depressed, timid guy who always seemed to be wearing 'invisible underwear' around women...
To suddenly finding myself in one 'can’t-miss' situation after another... where hot, young girls were approaching me... and then literally begging to take me home for X-rated sex!
I'm not kidding.
And It Was So Easy, I'm Genuinely Stumped
Why More Guys Haven't Come Across These Secrets
I mean, it wasn't like I changed anything about my basic personality. I still had no money, drove around in a rust-bucket and had less experience between the sheets than a 16 year-old.
All I did was apply the "underground" psychological principles I had discovered. It wasn't hard... and... anyone can do it. That's because I found out these techniques are based on powerful 'mind' principles you are born with - and are available to all of us.
What that means is, it doesn’t matter how old (or young) you are, if you're dead-broke or even if you have physical features that you think are turning women off...
Whatever Your Excuse Is,
These Principles Still Work
Just like advertising never fails in getting all sorts of different people to buy.
It's been nearly two decades since I first discovered these techniques, and it's been one hell of an emotionally... and... sexually satisfying ride.
These days I sleep every night next to the woman of my dreams (something I never thought would happen). And spend much of my time teaching other men...
The Secrets of 'Magnetically' Attracting Women To You...
Without Ever Chasing Them Down...
And Without Ever Having To Approach Them!
You see, once you have these secrets all the 'work' of meeting women will be done for you...automatically! You can just 'flip on' your magnetic powers of attraction... so to speak... and instantly bring sex, romance and more roaring into your life!
And this isn't some New Age theory crap. It's based on the same hush-hush psychological tactics advertisers have used for centuries to get filthy rich. They work for anyone, anywhere and at any time (no matter how desperate you think your situation is right now).
Not too long ago, I packaged up all these secrets in a guide I called How To Become An Alpha Male.
It’s the no-risk, never-fail blueprint on how to 'magnetically' attract an endless flow of horny, ready-for-sex women to you... without ever having to play their games or deal with rejection.
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